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Introduction:

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”
— Galatians 6.7 KJV

What you give, you will get. If you plant – or sow – apple seeds, you will not get oranges. You will get apples. If you give judgment, you will be judged. If you show mercy – sow mercy, you will receive mercy. It is the way the system works. The same is true of honor. If you sow or give or show honor, honor will come back to you. If you sow or give or show dishonor, dishonor will come back to you. In the United States and in many other cultures, the seeds of dishonor have been sown by one generation, and now a generation is coming up that does not know what honor is or what it means. Those who are being put forward as heroes today have no respect for anyone and do not show honor to anyone. It is mainly about “What’s in it for me?” and power over another to evidence their ‘honor.’ Honor in 2010AD is distorted.

Unless ‘honor’ is taught from one generation to the next, honor becomes meaningless. To disparage one’s honor was once cause for suit of aggrievances or redress; perhaps even for cause of death. Those who showed disrespect and dishonor were considered bad, uncouth, and perhaps even evil.

Mutual respect for persons – respecting someone just because someone is – once was normal. It was common to respect and defer to someone just because they were alive. It was recognized that person had value, meaning, purpose, and worth. In the United States over the last few decades that has changed.

It is now common in 2010AD to disregard any and everyone. If they are not you and you do not immediately benefit from them, they are as nothing. It is also common in 2010AD for some to demand respect, to demand honor be given them; without honor being given by them. What is respected is the power one has over another. Some have turned to violence as a way to validate their ‘honorable state.’

But what if that changed? What if we chose to be ‘honorable’ and ‘honor others more highly than ourselves?’[i] What if we sowed ‘honor’ without a thought of return; without expecting to get anything back from that person?

We can be the architects of a change in honor and respect. We can sow ‘honor’ as a farmer sows seeds. And in due course of time, we shall reap a harvest of ‘honor,’ if we persist.

Points:

  1. Being Honorable

“And Jabez was more honourable than his brethren…” — I Chronicles 4.9 KJV

‘Honorable’ in its basic form is ‘honor’ + ‘able.’ One could extend the definition of ‘honorable’ as being ‘honor able’ or ‘having the ability to honor or be honored.’

From Dictionary.com[ii], a definition of ‘honorable’ is “worthy of honor and high respect; estimable; creditable; bringing honor or credit; consistent with honor.”

In brief, to be honorable one must be honorable – one must be able to have, give, and receive ‘honor.’

Q: What is your personal definition of honor?
Q: Are you able to be ‘honorable’ as defined above?
Q: Can you give examples of when you were recognized as having honor; giving honor; or receiving honor?

2.   Honor Others

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” — Matthew 7.12 KJV

This verse is known as the “Golden Rule.” “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It is very simple, straightforward. There have been misinterpretations and variations of this verse.[iii] When Jesus said this phrase during the Sermon on the Mount, He was teaching those listening about honor and respect. He made the bold statement that this was the full intent and meaning of the Law and the prophets. His statement was a radical departure from religious practice and idealism. No longer were the righteous practitioners the only ones worthy of honor and respect, everyone was; and to not do that was to be against the Law and everything the prophets said.

Q: Can you think of a time where you did do for someone the way you would have liked done for you? What was the result of that?
Q: Have you ever found yourself going against the ‘social norm’ by following the Golden Rule?
Q: Have you been challenged by the Golden Rule and came up short? Have you followed the Golden Rule and came up receiving honor because you honored / respected / treated well another?

3.   Receiving Honor

“Instead of your shame you shall have double honor, And instead of confusion they shall rejoice in their portion. Therefore in their land they shall possess double; Everlasting joy shall be theirs.” – Isaiah 61.7 NKJV

“Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine. For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward.” – I Timothy 5.17-18 KJV

Receiving honor is difficult. Our culture has distorted ‘honor’ to the point that people will deflect compliments rather than receive honor. There are many who do not see themselves as worthy of praise or falsely assume that by receiving praise they are somehow ungodly, arrogant, or conceited. There are many who will not compliment another because their gift of praise – their gift of honoring the other person – is not received or not received well; thusly decreasing the value of the gift given.

“In order to give, someone must receive; and I chose to receive.” – Dave Doc Rogers[iv]

Jesus said the poor you will always have with you. Someone is always going to have a need. There is a need within us to recognize and praise a job well done; to thank someone for a generous service received. This need to recognize or give praise like any living thing must be used or it dies, and people get to the place where they may recognize something of worth but they will not mention anything because their desire to give that praise has been so squashed it is a thought only with no action considered.

The cure to being able to receive ‘honor’ and not wanting to is to just take it and say meaningfully “thank you.” Allow someone to sow ‘honor’ into your life by receiving their ‘honor’ to you.

Q: Have you ever found yourself in a position to receive honor and said things that deflected it away?
Q: Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to compliment someone but knew they would say ‘Ahh, it was nothing.” or some other deflection? How did that make you feel?
Q: have you ever been in a situation where you honored someone and it was sincerely received? How did that make you feel?

4.   Honor put upon you

“In my stars I am above thee, but be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.” – William Shakespeare

“Thus shall it be done unto the man whom the king delighteth to honour.” – Esther 6.9, 11 KJV

In a parable Jesus spoke about choosing the more humble place first to allow the host to invite you up.[v] There are times when ‘honor’ is thrust upon you and you only have two options: 1, take it, or 2, run.

Q: Has there been a moment that you felt you achieved greatness? Were you recognized for that moment or effort? How did that make you feel?
Q: Has there been a time in your life where you were recognized publicly for your work or service? How did that make you feel?

5.   Honor in absentia

“Leave a big hole.” – Anonymous

“How can I miss you if you won’t go away?” – Old Joke

So live a life of honor and absolutes that people around you find they cannot meet the mark. Love them and respect them more than they do themselves. Expect more out of their talents than they do. Do not let others sell themselves short. Believe in them and tell them often. Show them how much you care and tell them often.

“Don’t tell your people how to do things. Tell them what to do and let them surprise you with the results.” – General George S Patton, USA

When a chapter of your life closes and you move on to the next thing, the best honor you can receive from those left in that past chapter is for them to miss your example.

Q: Has there been a time in your life where you left a big hole?
Q: Has there been a time where your honor and absolutes drove the standards?
Q: Have you gone back to visit a former place and were surprised by the response of those left behind?

Review:

Changing someone’s understanding of ‘honor’ by your example is possible; if you persist. If you sow ‘honor’ like a seed and mean it, you will reap a harvest of ‘honor’ being returned to you. Being ‘honorable’ must be cultivated. Develop in yourself the ability to carry, give, and receive ‘honor.’ Giving ‘honor’ where it is appropriate is important. You just may be the only person in their life that has cared enough to bestow ‘honor’ on them. It is like a fount of water to a thirsty person. Recognize in yourself the times that you would have liked to have been treated with ‘honor’ and respect. Know that by giving ‘honor’ and respect to others, they may have been feeling the same things you had. In the same way, allow others to ‘honor’ you. Simply say thank you and mean it. Allow others the opportunity to praise you, to recognize something worthy of praise in another person.

Your persistence in being ‘honorable’ will gain you more ‘honor.’ Do not be overly surprised – but do be humbly thankful – when others recognize you for what you have done. And if no one ever recognizes you for what you do while you are there, persist anyway. You are not doing it for your immediate benefit. You are doing it as a service to them. You just may be surprised by the responses you receive when you next see them.

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
— Jesus[vi]

Key Points:

  • Sow ‘honor’ like a seed; expect a harvest on what you have sown.
  • Become ‘honorable.’ Become able to give and receive honor.
  • Live Jesus’ Golden Rule.
  • Learn to say ‘thank you.’ Learn to receive and accept honest praise.
  • When others honor you for who you are or what you have done, accept it humbly.
  • So leave a mark of excellence that your memory is honored when they think of you.

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[i] The Holy Bible, Romans 12:3 “For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.”
[ii] http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/honorable
[iii] The Golden Rule [modified] “He who has the gold makes the rules.”
The Platinum Rule: “Do unto others as they want done unto them.”
[iv] This truism came from a leadership meeting where there were too many hands clearing the table so I let them and just received the blessing. I was asked why I was not helping and the quote was my answer.
[v] The Holy Bible, Luke 14.1-11
[vi] The Holy Bible, John 13.34-35 NKJV

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